Once a Deadbeat, Always?

Deadbeat dad

Here’s another deadbeat dad story — but with an unusual twist.

(Yes, I know plenty of deadbeat mothers exist. Here’s a tragic example. But “Gold Diggers and Deadbeat Non-Custodial Parents” isn’t catchy.)

If you read my book Gold Diggers and Deadbeat Dads: True Stories of Friends, Family, and Financial Ruin, you might remember Diana’s story, “Where Did All the Child Support Money Go?”

Diana’s troubles began when she married her high school sweetheart Bart, who turned out to be anything but sweet, she told me.

Instead, he was a raging alcoholic who slept around their small town in a Minneapolis suburb.

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The World’s Most Callous Deadbeat Dad

Deadbeat dadBethany and I had lunch in a cafe near San Diego. Her cousin took Chrystal, Bethany’s six-year old daughter, to play in the park while Bethany and I chatted about Chrystal’s deadbeat daddy.

On a rebound from a failed relationship, Bethany met Dwayne at a bar when she was in her early 30s. After they spent just one night together, she got pregnant.

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Don’t be a Deadbeat Mom

Deadbeat mom neglected her childDeadbeat dads: we know them as the noncustodial fathers who fail to pay court-ordered child support.

What about deadbeat moms? Unfortunately, plenty of women neglect the basic daily needs of their kids.

Brian shared a detailed personal story with me about his son, Sean, whose life took a lot of unexpected parental twists over two decades.

When he was in his early twenties, Sean didn’t know what to do with his life, so he joined the Marines. He was an alcoholic and his drinking problem became worse while he was in the service, stationed at Quantico, Virginia. One drunken night, he met a drug addict named Linda at a local bar. Sean knew that she was married but slept around with other Marines and local guys. They had a short fling.

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